Last Friday I got a call from the school's after school care director. I knew, from experience, that either Brandon was hurt or in trouble. More often than not, he is in trouble. Friday was no exception. The director said, I have some bad news. I am going to have to dismiss Brandon today. I don't want to but those are the rules. I assured her that I understood the rules and I know that it was nothing personal to Brandon or me, after all we have been in this situation before.
The rules are; if you get written up for bad behavior 3 times then you get dismissed. Now when Brandon was in Kindergarten it happened very quickly and we took him back to the day care center that he went to K4 and he was fine there. I was thinking this year we might make it the whole year, but with only 10 weeks left he placed the final straw on the camel's back and now he is back at that same daycare.
Each of his 3 write ups were for completely different things. The first was climbing the walls in the bathroom. Second, (the guys always love this one) he pulled a little girl's skirt up and showed the class her panties, then finally last Friday playing musical chairs, another kid slapped Brandon's hand and in return Brandon slapped the other kid. None of these things should have been done by Brandon and he got in trouble for each of them. But at the same time, I guess it is the teacher in me, I am glad to see that he isn't showing a pattern of violence or hateful offences.
Not knowing all of his past (he is adopted at age 4) I sometimes worry about what might be lurking in his little mind. I wonder what kinds of things did he experience, hear, see, feel when he didn't have a nurturing Mom to watch over him. I wonder will those things show up in the future just out of the blue. I guess every mom has thoughts of the future and wonders am I doing the right thing, am I watching out for my child in the best way I can, and I wonder if when or if something does happen will I be able to recognize the signs to intervene.
Although those thoughts pass through my mind often, I also remind myself that Brandon is a caring, considerate young man. He is well liked by his peers and I have yet to come across someone that Brandon doesn't like. He loves people. He loves to recognize their differences. He is never afraid to make a new friend, and often doesn't realize that there are people in the world that don't know who he is. After all he IS going to be president of the United States one day (a claim that he has made since he was 4).
The rules are; if you get written up for bad behavior 3 times then you get dismissed. Now when Brandon was in Kindergarten it happened very quickly and we took him back to the day care center that he went to K4 and he was fine there. I was thinking this year we might make it the whole year, but with only 10 weeks left he placed the final straw on the camel's back and now he is back at that same daycare.
Each of his 3 write ups were for completely different things. The first was climbing the walls in the bathroom. Second, (the guys always love this one) he pulled a little girl's skirt up and showed the class her panties, then finally last Friday playing musical chairs, another kid slapped Brandon's hand and in return Brandon slapped the other kid. None of these things should have been done by Brandon and he got in trouble for each of them. But at the same time, I guess it is the teacher in me, I am glad to see that he isn't showing a pattern of violence or hateful offences.
Not knowing all of his past (he is adopted at age 4) I sometimes worry about what might be lurking in his little mind. I wonder what kinds of things did he experience, hear, see, feel when he didn't have a nurturing Mom to watch over him. I wonder will those things show up in the future just out of the blue. I guess every mom has thoughts of the future and wonders am I doing the right thing, am I watching out for my child in the best way I can, and I wonder if when or if something does happen will I be able to recognize the signs to intervene.
Although those thoughts pass through my mind often, I also remind myself that Brandon is a caring, considerate young man. He is well liked by his peers and I have yet to come across someone that Brandon doesn't like. He loves people. He loves to recognize their differences. He is never afraid to make a new friend, and often doesn't realize that there are people in the world that don't know who he is. After all he IS going to be president of the United States one day (a claim that he has made since he was 4).
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